A little help here?

Recently, I released my latest film, Travel Geek Short: Documentary Gopeng.  And unfortunately, I have to upload it again in a re-edited version because I overlooked some copyrighted content.  I dunno how I could have let that slip, though I imagine it’s just a technical error.  But the way I see it this is a good thing.

For starters, I don’t like any of the cover images that automatically popped up when the first version finished uploading.  So this little hiccup allows me an opportunity to make this next version a little bit better.

As a YouTube partner, I am allowed to upload a cover image to each of the films that I release.  And I have been running an experiment on my channel to see which videos get the most views based on the images I select.  Some of the videos have clip shots from outtakes or extra scenes.  And recently, I have decided to start clipping the cover images directly from the same film just to ensure that I am advertising the film adequately.

In this latest short film, I’ve selected a few frames that I think would be cool to be the cover image for this film.  Take a look at them and let me know which one is your favorite.  Which one should I use (and remember, it’s going to be much smaller on YouTube, so the detail will be a factor).

Let me know in the comments, or email me at cyle@cyleodonnell.com.

 

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How Do I Do It?

People often ask me how it is that I find the time, money and energy to travel, write, take pictures and make films for such an extended period of time abroad.  So I have created this journal to answer those questions.

Firstly, I am not rich.  I have to work and budget my time and money just like most others.  But I know a lot of people that travel in a wide range of fashions.  And while their time and budgets vary greatly, they all have one thing in common: Energy.  So I’ll start there.

When I was a little boy, I would listen to my father talk about his career as a photojournalist in the military.  He would travel all over the world and photograph news and feature events for various newspapers and publications.  I am sure that I would look at him with wild, unflinching eyes as my mind also traveled to these amazing, far off places in this world that I didn’t know.

It was also about that time that I got interested in photography.  But not just photography.  Video and stills were both very interesting to me.  And because my father was also a budding wedding videographer at that time, I got some schooling in both.  He would teach me the various items related to the lens (aesthetic, composition, white balance, ASA/ISO, exposure time/shutter speed, film speed, and on and on).

I ate it up.  I started getting involved in photography competitions right in the third grade.  I even won my very first competition – first place.  It was a photo of a lone weed set amid the inverted backdrop of a reflected horizon in a pond.  Even today I remember that being a pretty cool photo.

My brother and I would steal my dad’s cameras and make short films about old westerns and comedies.  We would put on plays and act out parts.  At the end of our films, we’d write the credits on a piece of paper and slowly drag them vertically in front of the camera because we didn’t have access to the equipment necessary for creating the credit-scrolling effect.  We’d go to thrift stores and magic shops and spend our allowance on fake appendages, tinfoil coins and plastic cigars and we’d use them as props in our little productions.

Later, we would move to a small town in Kentucky where my brother and I would run the video equipment for our church to broadcast the sermon live on the air.  Sometimes I’d be in the booth while my brother ran the cameras.  And sometimes we’d switch.

As my teen years rolled on, my father’s wedding business grew and I’d find myself in his editing room, helping him on shoots and organizing lenses in the camera bag or just watching and learning the editing process from him.

I’d go on to join the military, myself.  And I’d have my own business in the following years and have other interests as well.  But all the while, I was always involved in some kind of visual medium – moving or still-life.  Creative writing, too, was always on the back burner as I’d always be writing short stories of adventurous tales in the back of class.

The energy, therefore, to stay on task and create visual productions that document the goings on around me, was simply a non-issue.  I would imagine it’s appropriate to describe photography and videography as one of my passions.  The drive to explore was given to me as I’d salivate over my father’s stories.  And therefore, documenting my travel experiences seems also to be a natural complement to that.

The second item, time, would probably be seen as an issue for most people.  In fact, I don’t think I know anyone with such an abundance of time that they take to travel because they need to fill some hole in their life or risk dying of boredom.  Time, I would imagine, is likely the biggest hurdle for us all.

However, the way that I find time to involve myself in travel and documentary productions is also closely related to how I find the funding as well.  So the last two issues I’ll answer together.

My family was always moving around.  We never really put down roots anywhere.  The longest I spent in one place was my high school years.  And even then it was the last two years (junior & senior years) that I spent in a different town than I started.  So it would reasonably follow that I don’t really have much of an issue relocating.  In fact, I am not sure that I even know how to settle because what I am comfortable with is seeing new surroundings about every couple years.  I just always seem to need new stimuli.

My independent travel started when I joined the Navy.  I went a few places while enlisted, but most of my travel was on my own, after I got out.  I would move to Texas because I wanted to see what life was like in the south.  Or I’d move to Kansas City to follow a promotion at work.  Sometimes I’d even move to a new place because I needed bailing out.  But whatever the case, I’d always find new surroundings quite frequently.

Finally, in 2003, I became interested in completing my lifelong interest in global exploration.  I started busying myself with research into ways to study abroad in my college program or volunteer at a school or project somewhere.  And eventually I found that there were a lot of options as long as I was willing to put in the legwork and dedicate myself to a certain amount of time and responsibility.

I had the passion and definitely would have made time.  But there was always one thing lacking:  money.

I knew what short term travel was like, and how I could use it to keep my wanderlust from taking over.  So I had to start thinking creatively about how to sustain my passions for longer periods of time.

The first thing that I came up with was a bicycle trip.  I assumed (quite accurately) that the three biggest hurdles to cheap travel were transportation, lodging and food.  A long distance bicycling trip took care of all three.  Transportation was only limited by my muscles (and the infrequent popped tire).  Lodging was taken care of with my durable, three-season tent.  And food generally amounted to pancake mix in the morning, spaghetti in the afternoon and one paid meal for dinner.

This regimen was great.  And from 2005 to 2008 it carried me through 12 countries.  While traveling by bike, I had plenty of time to stop and snap a photo, spend a few days writing and camping in one place or change direction at my own whim.  And during this time, I used my spring, summer and winter breaks from school to go on these adventures.  So there was plenty of time, plenty of energy and plenty of loan money to carry me through.

‘But what about when school ends,’ I thought.  What happens when the funds stop, the time is more sparse and the effort must be managed between my other commitments?

After my biking trips abroad, I found myself living in Alaska working as an environmental scientist.  It was fun.  But it was very expensive.  And leaving the country seemed more financially impossible than at any other time in my life.  But my experience abroad, combined with some creativity would help me plan the goal that would make the next five years of long term travel a real possibility.

Having had so many breaks from college, I thought about how it would be nice to work in the academic setting and have all this time off to go and travel.  I later combined this idea with my experience with traveling and working in new places (and of course, my interests in photography/videography) and POOF!  There it was!

I was going to become an international educator, live abroad permanently and use my time off to see and document the towns and countries around my host country that interested me.  And that’s just what I did.

I made my objectives early;  I knew that I wanted to be a teacher.  I thought about the hurdles; the things I needed to do to become qualified to teach in various settings.  And I made a commitment to finances; budgeting for long term travel and all the gear and supplies that I would need.

And so I started my master’s degree in education and international communications.  I packed up my “extras” and mailed them off to be kept in my dad’s basement.  I cleared my schedule for the next few years.  And I saved up every penny I could by the end of my contract working as a scientist and professor for the University of Alaska.

Since the end of 2009, I’ve been living and working abroad as an instructor in various forms.  I have worked in middle schools, high schools, at after school clubs and even my current position as a college professor.  I even worked freelance for newspapers and magazines as well as hosting live events and exhibitions to earn extra money from my photographs and videography expertise.

Most of the time, the teaching I did was for English or English as a Second Language (ESL).  But the longer I have been involved, the more flexibility I have gained for instructing in my areas of interest.  So I have also been able to start teaching in visual media (photography, graphic arts, videography, journalism, etc.).  And in between those times, I have gone on to visit neighboring countries, exploring all the amazing places that I had longed to do so many years ago and creating the works that I’ve amassed since I started.

At this point in my life, though, I have it pretty much down to a science.  The money that I would have spent at the pub on the weekend back home is now spent traveling and documenting during my breaks.  I have more respect for my professional objectives because they allow me to explore the world and pursue my passions.  The rewards that I thought were “rewarding” back home are some foreign lost cause that some corporate supervisor once tried to sell me.  And all the achievements that I might have pushed for in my settled life have been replaced by the type of gratification that I imagined my dad got when he’d tell me about his amazing stories.

Now, I plan ahead like a master craftsman and execute like a poised artist.  I have very little fear of failure because I know that I have the experience to accomplish what I set out to do.  And the advice that I once asked of others is now being asked of me.  And it’s not only humbling and rewarding, it also reminds me that I am doing well in life and that I have achieved real success.

So how do I do it now?

As far as traveling and documenting goes, I generally invite a teacher friend to come along and sometimes pay their way as we plan and execute a filming junket to a country of interest.  It’s helps with safety, it offsets the cost of lodging and it makes a huge difference in being able to film in various conditions.

I research my travels by connecting with other travelers in the same locations or areas of interest, going onto travel forums and discussion boards, watching tutorials about where I’ll go, checking the currency indices and exchange patterns. I find out the topography and think back to times when I have traveled through similar climes and conditions to sort out what gear to bring. I think about all the electronic needs I have and consider if several of them can be taken care of with one device (e.g. alarm clock/maps/translations/exchange rate/calculator can all be found on an iPhone), and I budget both time and money without a shred of emotion (refraining from being partial to my love for this or that type of food, for instance).  And many other things that have become a natural part of my planning process.

This last year has been the apex of all of my years of traveling and documenting.  And I’ve even been able to start organizing all those scattered journals, books, photos and films that I’ve collected throughout the years into a well organized online medium.  I’ve tried so many different things, that now I effortlessly get rid of what doesn’t work and focus on what does.

And at this point, I have several published books (and some that are yet to be released) of journals and research from my travels.  I have the freedom to head off to a national park or an island paradise and bring the right video equipment with me because I’ve been able to refine all my gear to the best stuff that will work for the specific filming needs I’ll encounter.  I’ll be sure to come back with great photos because of the technique that I have honed over the years of learning my lenses the hard way.  And I now have more than 100 short and feature length videos, nearly 100,000 images and a countless number of stories to share of my experiences.

In retrospect, I am sure that the travelers of the future will be making quick business of my accomplishments and far surpass what I’ve been able to do.  And I really can’t wait to see what the new generation of travelers will do, given the pioneering efforts of my generation – the first digital travelers.

I hope that this answered some questions as to how one might get out into the world.  And I hope that it inspires interested travelers to do just that.

Remember, bills will always be there.  So there’s never a better time to start putting money away for your goal of going global.

Here are my top ten points of advice for long term, live-abroad travel below:

  1. Make your plan and stick to it.  Be as specific as possible in setting your goals.
  2. Find out where you want to go and how much it will cost to live there for at least one year. Include costs for children/spouse/pets.  [If you’re considering a permanent move or a move which has you living in many different countries for many years, consider selling your things – which will help offset the startup costs.]
  3. Save up that amount of money and another $2000 for a return or open-ended flight. Plan to have money to buy a ticket home in the event of a family emergency.
  4. If you want to film, photograph or write, make sure you budget this equipment outside of your savings.  On the flight, try to bring this equipment as a carry-on, rather than checked luggage.
  5. Plan your profession: What works well overseas vs. what you do well at home? Find that job niche and start connecting to employers abroad.  Some hire six months to a year ahead of time.
  6. Plan your year: At least one full year is what is normally required by international contracts. So that means no pets, no rent, no car insurance, no cell phone bill.  Nothing.  The most you should be spending is in storage fees – buy for the year and set up options for longer.
  7. Tell your bank where (and for how long) you’ll be using your cards abroad.
  8. Travel light. Over-pack your wallet and under-pack your bags. Don’t worry, you’ll have plenty of time to accumulate an abundance of stuff overseas.
  9. Download Skype, set up a family email and Facebook account, create a community Drop Box account or create a blog through which others can easily contact you on a regular basis and keep up with where you are, what is happening and how to contact you in emergencies.
  10. Don’t go half-ass.  The first two months of any long term transition are the hardest.  Don’t be a pansy.  Push through and make it work.  You will be rewarded with a life changing year that you will never forget.

On the Road Filming in Borneo: An Update

Hey Travel Geekers,

A personal note to give you an update on what’s happening here:

I’ve flown my new producer and myself out to Borneo to get the concluding footage for my latest film, Travel Geek: Documentary Malaysia.  It will be released in two main parts, with extras and outtakes as well as short film releases over the next couple months.  I will also release Travel Geek: Documentary Borneo as a separate video, but will collectively create the video that is inclusive of all parts of the film once it’s all put together.

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Cristina Owen is a blogger and travel enthusiast that I met over a podcast interview.  Those that follow this blog will remember her as the longest Travelcast that I’ve done so far.  We definitely got along well on the podcast and we’re doing good things here as well.  She flew out from San Francisco on her way through Asia for a chance to come filming with me.  We left from Kuala Lumpur last Sunday and already we’ve gotten some good footage.

There’ve been some interesting challenges along the trail so far.  For starters, Borneo is not the most agreeable place for weather, the most reliable place for travel plans or the most relaxing place to visit.  But that should, in now way, hinder your plans to come here if you want to do so.  The people, the epic, natural backdrop in all directions, the amazing and adventurous things to do and the geological and biological diversity all more than make up for what seem like troublesome challenges along the way.

Another factor for me is that I have picked up the cough that my producer brought in from Taiwan (not that anyone’s pointing fingers).  So it’s been a little more of a struggle to do the same types of hikes that I am used to doing due to muscle and bone soreness as well as a lung full of mucus that constantly needs to be coughed out.  But even with that in tow, I still (may have) got out to an amazing waterfall hike yesterday where I (might have) swam in a pond fed by an absolutely breathtaking 40-foot-tall waterfall in the middle of Lambir National Park.  I (possibly) had the park all to myself, too, because I (kinda, sorta, might have) showed up after the park had closed for the day… and (kinda, sorta, might have) happened to hop the fence and enter the park without a pass, a filming permit or even registering my name at the park office.  That might have happened.   I dunno.  The footage will have to speak for itself.

So, here I am on day four of my trek and I have seen and done enough things to satiate my travel bug.  And I’m only halfway through.  I’ve gotten a locally crafted tattoo from the local Iban artisans, I’ve filmed wild proboscis monkeys leaping from tree to tree, seen 3-meter-long pythons and deadly pit vipers amid the inescapably beautiful backdrop of Borneo’s wilds.  And I’ve still got Class IV rapids at the Padas River, a Mosque walk through the tiny country of Brunei Darussalam, and to make it back to Kota Kinabalu to possibly fit a mountain climb in before heading back on Sunday morning.

This is turning out to be one helluva film.  I can’t wait to see the edited version.

Insights from the Pavement: Keeping a Record

Throughout our travels, it’s not uncommon to want to jot down our amazing memories, our new, insightful inspirations and our glimpses into a foreign world. These tableaus may find their way into a journal, a diary or even a blog or newspaper travel column. Or they may wind up being plot points on a chronological record used later to share with friends and family.

However they’re used, it may also benefit us to begin to create a pattern of keeping records in our settled lives as well. Paying close enough attention to our interests and goals to track our successes and failures will keep us on task, allow us to see end dates to our objectives and form patters of organization that contribute to a continuum of exponential success.

Having kept a dream journal of the last eight years, I have found that I can look back upon my mind’s creations and recognize many truly amazing patterns in my life. Through a marvel of symbolism and staggering pallet of imagery, I have been able to analyze my current challenges, dissect the complexity and impact of remnant childhood issues, and even understand how I have been host to some of my greatest failures.

These have helped me recognize paths I’d like to create for myself as well as paths I’d rather not take again. And this is a hugely beneficial resource that we all have at our disposal – the answers to all our problems, laid out in a script that was designed for us, by us. But this is not the only record that can be kept, and not the only way to keep it.

The more scholarly of us like to journal, blog and publish books. The illustrators among us doodle and pen our ideas in squiggles and sketches. The musically inclined have an unmatched ability to place our trials into song. And the visually gifted of us sculpt, build and shape a world of similes which depict the nature of their experiences as well.

But, while using life’s encounters to create something artistic to give back to the world is great, each insight we record doesn’t have to be an earth shattering realization of fine art. We can keep a small note pad with us. Cameras offer a great vehicle for keeping visual records. I, myself, have kept a handheld recorder on my nightstand to easily awake and immediately record my dreams, transcribing them later into a Word files on a thumb drive.

No matter what avenue we take to keeping track of our lives, we should make a concerted effort at doing so. Then, once we have a few months worth of information, we should be sure to pour over it with an analytic eye, looking creatively for the best practices that we can enact to form patterns of success.

Are you doing this already? Tell me how in the comments.

Intro Outtakes and Bloopers for Travel Geek: Documentary Malaysia

Eventually having to scrap an entire evening of takes, my introductory commentary for Travel Geek: Documentary Malaysia was plagued by forgotten lines, honking cars, noisy birds, pedestrian traffic and even the Muslim Call to Prayer from a nearby mosque.

Luckily I found a much more suitable location with less challenges in the town square of Malacca’s Dutch Quarter. Be sure to watch the feature length film when it comes out in August, 2013.

Intro Outtakes and Bloopers:
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For all the extras from Travel Geek: Documentary Malaysia, visit www.MovingStillsMedia.com.

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Insights from the Pavement: Welcoming New Dirt

Silly, though that statement may be, it still has a profound meaning within the constructs of one’s home.  And while abroad, this statement will remain with us if we take the time to apply it in our at-home lives.

While traveling, it’s certainly important to be in the moment with each of the everyday items that requires our participation (walking, meeting, writing, planning, etc.).  But one of the few things that we rarely engage in while on the road is the action of cleaning.

We clean our clothes, we take showers – some of us might even polish shoes or hats (I am one of these people).  But generally while we’re traveling we don’t do the same type of cleaning as we do at home.  And this might not seem important (or even noticeable) to most people.  So it might just as well go without note that our bodies actually miss the experience of cleaning our spaces.

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I realize that this is an odd statement to make – especially for those who would just as soon lounge on the beach with a martini than to sweep the kitchen floor yet another time.  But cleaning has a way of giving us the opportunity to see things from a different perspective than we normally have.

Cleaning really doesn’t benefit us in the same way that other actions do.  It doesn’t get any more of our pages edited from our new book.  It doesn’t get the financial reports in on time.  It doesn’t walk the dog or take the kids to school.  But it’s important nonetheless.

Cleaning isn’t just an act of making things shinier.  When we’re in the moment of cleansing our space, we are engaging that place within us that transforms internal intentions into physical action which ultimately rejuvenates an environment.  So it’s much grander than the connotation that the word “chores” brings with it.

Philosophically speaking, the dust that moved around us while doing the things in the past has eventually sifted down onto the floor.  And so these little particles, which will remain until they have been swept away, represent the other types of work that we’ve previously engaged in.  Sweeping them away clears a metaphorical workspace for new activities, more work and therefore more progress.  And once swept away, these particles will be replaced by the remnants of our future efforts.

So in this way the action of cleaning means something much more subtle, yet no less profound, to our inner selves.  Taking off to travel also means leaving that activity behind.  And whether or not we find ourselves with white sand and bottomless martinis or a dusty road with an endless horizon, we will continue to create, progress and carry on.

So the next time we return home we should welcome this time to clean.  When sweeping, mopping or scrubbing, we should be in the moment of not only cleaning the physical elements of the past from our space, but also welcoming the growth that this new, clean space will allow us to manifest.  And the next time we find ourselves remiss of our cleaning duties, we’ll still be able to rely on our pattern of welcoming new dirt.

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Insights from the Pavement: Assessing time

Time means many different things, depending on where one might find themselves around the world.

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There’s no denying that many of us have felt the impact of that very statement while lazing away in a hammock as waves crash down on the nearby beach.  Time, in that way, is only measured in terms of the piña coladas that separate the day into more of a detached sequence of sonatas playing out a in a grander symphony of relaxation.

On the other hand, those of us who’ve missed our bus to get to our downtown jobs know the very essence of even a single minute that passes through time.  Each minute, in this case, is more akin to a measure of frustration that shapes our realization that tardiness may cost us much more than the sip of a tropical drink.

These two extremes mark the very fringes of our expectation of time.  And most of us reside somewhere in the middle.  But when we visit a new place, we should be sure to pay close attention to what time might mean in the current location.

In the west, being punctual shows others that we are professional, dedicated and that others’ time is important to us.  In the east, however, being late might actually work in your favor, as it can also be seen to mean that a person knows his level of importance and therefore his lateness is the expression of that concept.

More times than not, our expectation of time while traveling abroad simply relates to the ability to catch a bus or that a train will arrive on the scheduled time.  But it is important to be mindful that this may not be a frivolous matter when dealing interpersonally with those who expect certain things of us.

Being invited to ceremonial events such as weddings, family feasts or annual celebrations hold a completely different prospect for those who did the inviting.  When in doubt of how to handle these occasions, it’s always best to show up early.  Having this in mind will keep us from looking as though we are either too humble and self-conscious, or too egotistical and feel that others should wait on us.

Developing this pattern while abroad may well be the catalyst for continuing this beneficial trend at home as well.

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Travel Geek Short: Hiking Tabur West

In Kuala Lumpur’s Klang district lies Melawati, home to three epic hikes; Tabur East, Tabur West and Tabur Extreme. For weekend warriors seeking the city’s nearest adventures, it doesn’t get more rewarding than this. Follow along as my amazing friend Amaal shows me the ropes on Tabur West.

For all the extras from Travel Geek: Documentary Malaysia, visit www.MovingStillsMedia.com.

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**Readers: I’m thinking about doing a new series of short films called “The TG Hike Report” where I do a quick synapses of a hike that I have done recently.  What do you think?  Would you like to see more videos like this?  Let me know in the comments.

Insights from the Pavement: Look at what you’ve done

Finding what we’re passionate about comes easy for some.  Creating music, painting a portrait or taking a beautiful photograph seems simply to be in some people’s blood.  For those of us who are blessed to have that kind of talent, it’s a marvel even to sit in their presence and watch them work.

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For most of us, however, finding, exploring and possibly mastering a specific craft seems a bit harder to reach.  The apex of our efforts, then, becomes realizing a goal that we may have set for ourselves to one day get to a point of mastery within our interests that drives us to continually do better.  And as we chip away at the rough outer edges of the product that will eventually be our life’s work, many of us experience extreme moments of satisfaction along the way.

On the other hand, while it seems nearly impossible to imagine, there are so many of us who simply pass right by this experience of self-gratitude and just keep working – never becoming aware of the amazing accomplishments that we’ve created along the way.

Having a creative outlet is important.  Dedicating ourselves to one or more items in this life rewards us in many ways.  But if we never turn around to gaze over the ground we’ve covered in our endeavors, these amazing accomplishments fall by the wayside to the one person who they should matter to the most – ourselves.

When we get busy creating something in our lives that others will enjoy and benefit from, keep in mind that if we don’t also enjoy the fruits of our labors, we may be little more than slaves to our own craft.  And eventually, under these conditions, our craft will fail and ultimately our engagement in this lifestyle will seem as pointless as the efforts that were never appreciated along the way.

When we find ourselves at a pausing-point in our work, we should always take the opportunity to look at what we’ve done and smile quietly to ourselves at the brilliant new thing that we’ve given back to the world that has sustained us.  It is important that we don’t become callous, prideful or an overindulgent in self-advocacy.  But if we are involved in our activities because our efforts were truly inspired from a place within us, our gratitude will never fail to fill us with a sense of unending humility.

And that, alone, is worth a lifetime of work.

Do you agree or disagree?  Tell me in the comments.

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Insights from the Pavement: Using Your Presence

It’s only in recent years that I have come to realize just how much physical space I take up – and therefore, how I must come across to people.  I am quite a big person, standing 6’4” (193cm) and weighing 230 lbs (104kg).  In addition, my first reaction when I am engaging in stimulating conversation is to become animated and to shape my words with my hands and my body.

And since many cultures around the world are extremely put off by boisterous movements that are natural to me, many times I’ve missed opportunities of connecting with people for reasons that I never realized at the time.

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For those reading this who don’t really have any way to relate, I’d have to say that it’s a bit like being a fully grown Labrador retriever that still thinks it’s a lap-dog.  It’s a big, fumbling animal that reacts cluelessly to its owners’ attempts to get it to understand it’s all grown up.  Except, most people are too polite to ever tell me that I am intimidating them with my loud presence and quick hand movements.

Over the years I’ve learned that I need to curb my activities when I speak to others and sculpt my words less with the motion in my hands and more with the choice of my words.  This, of course, allows the person I am speaking to to be less focused on these big, swinging arms that I am waiving around and more on my topic.  I also notice that when I speak with young people, it’s better that I fold my hands together behind my back or place them in my pockets and not square up my shoulders to them so as to not seem too physically engaging.

There are many other examples of the conscious effort I make not to subconsciously affront people.  But suffice it to say that we all expend a great deal of energy communicating our information to others.  So it makes sense that we should also pay a certain amount of attention to whether or not these efforts may be misaligned or misdirected.

There’s really no way to measure how much of what we say comes across differently than we intend.  The best we can hope to do is to come close to getting our ideas out there.  But if we take the time to investigate how we come across to others, we can maximize our efforts and use our best attributes to our advantage.

This will also go a long way in letting us know of items in our lives or about our appearance that we might like to change or do away with altogether.  After all, if what we’re trying to communicate is only lost in a sea of actions or visual attributes that are working counter to our aims, we would benefit from knowing of that which stands in the way of our interpersonal contact with others.

This may well be the difference between connecting with people in that new place that we visit along our travels, and missing opportunity after opportunity to get a deeper sense of the foreign cultures which we’re exploring.

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Like the photo from this journal?  Click HERE to see the photos from this year’s Thaipusam Festival at the Batu Cave in Malaysia.